Wednesday, September 16, 2026

Apparently, I Also Teach Threatening & Scolding





Apparently, I Also Teach Threatening & Scolding

A morning in the life of a meditation teacher… and a very curious child.

This morning, Aaghnya looked at me very seriously and asked:

“Amma, what is threatening? And what is scolding?”

It was early.

My day had already started.

And somewhere in my head, I was doing the usual morning calculations:

Five meditation sessions today.

Three advanced.

Two beginners.

Need to prepare for the advanced group.

Need to remember what I have to do between sessions.

What are we having for lunch?

Did I drink water?

Where is my phone?

Why am I holding this spoon?

And then…

“Amma, what is threatening?”

My brain:

Excuse me?

😂

I looked at her.

She was genuinely waiting for an answer.

So obviously, everything else had to pause.

Because that's the thing about children.

They don't care that you have a schedule.

They don't care that you have clients waiting.

They don't care that you have a meditation session in a little while.

If a question enters their head…

it needs an answer NOW.

So I put on my very serious “mother-teacher” face and explained:

“If you say, ‘If you do this, I will do this,’ that's threatening.”

She listened.

Okay.

One down.

Then came:

“What is scolding?”

So I explained:

“If you have already done something, and I say, ‘Why did you do that? Why did you do this? Why did you behave like that?’ — that's scolding.”

And while explaining it, I suddenly realised something.

Oh God.

I'm literally a meditation and wellness coach…

and my child has brought me a topic that belongs to Parenting 101.

Five meditation sessions today.

Three advanced.

Two beginners.

And apparently, one completely unexpected session on the psychology of threatening and scolding.

😂

I could almost imagine putting it on my schedule:

9:00 AM – Advanced Meditation
10:30 AM – Advanced Meditation
12:00 PM – Parenting Vocabulary Consultation with Aaghnya

No registration required.

Attendance compulsory.

And the funny part?

She was so genuinely curious.

There was no argument.

No mischief.

No drama.

Just:

“Amma, I want to understand the difference.”

And I thought about how children do this.

They collect words from everywhere.

They hear something.

They notice something.

They store it somewhere in that little brain.

And then they suddenly pull it out when you're least prepared.

Usually when you're:

busy.

Very busy.

Extremely busy.

Preferably with one hand occupied and the other hand looking for something you can't find.

Because apparently, children have an internal radar for maximum parental inconvenience.

😂

And let's be honest…

Every parent knows the difference between threatening and scolding.

But when your child actually asks you to define it, suddenly you become very careful with your words.

Because now you have to explain your own behaviour.

You can't just say,

“Because Amma said so.”

The child has requested clarification.

And honestly, I loved that.

Because beneath the funny question was a child trying to understand how adults communicate.

And maybe that's one of the unexpected gifts of parenting.

They make us explain things we normally do automatically.

They make us listen to our own words.

They make us notice ourselves.

Even when we're standing in the middle of a chaotic Chennai morning, mentally preparing for five meditation sessions.

So today, Aaghnya learned:

Threatening:
“If you do this, I will do that.”

Scolding:
“You did this. Why did you do that?”

And I learned:

Being a meditation teacher does not mean I get peaceful mornings.

It just means…

I have a slightly more creative vocabulary for describing the chaos. 😂

Because after all my years of meditation, mindfulness and inner awareness…

there is still one little voice in my house that can completely interrupt my inner silence with:

“Amma…”

And honestly?

I'm not sure there is any meditation technique for that.

Yet. 😄

Meenakshi R Karthikeyan 

AAGHNYA™ | Your Inner Awakening Space

Monday, September 14, 2026

Ganesha: The Doorway Between Two States of Consciousness


Ganesha: The Doorway Between Two States of Consciousness

Every year, when we celebrate Ganesh Chaturthi, we welcome Ganesha into our homes.

We offer flowers.
We light lamps.
We prepare modaks.
We pray to Vinayaka to remove our obstacles.

But what if the story of Ganesha is also telling us something about our own consciousness?

What if Ganesha is not just the child of Parvati, the son of Shiva, or the remover of obstacles?

What if he is the guardian of a doorway?

A doorway between who we were…

and who we are becoming.

The child created by Shakti

In the popular telling of the story, Ma Parvati creates Ganesha from turmeric paste and gives him life.

Shiva is away.

Parvati gives Ganesha one simple instruction:

“Guard this doorway. Do not allow anyone to enter.”

And Ganesha obeys.

He doesn't know that the person approaching the doorway is Shiva.

He doesn't know that Shiva is his father.

He only knows the purpose given to him by the one who created him.

There is something profound here.

Parvati, representing Shakti—the dynamic, creative power of existence, brings a new form into being.

She gives that form a purpose.

And that new force stands at the doorway.

The doorway

A doorway is neither completely inside nor completely outside.

It is a threshold.

You are one thing on one side…

and something different on the other.

We experience these doorways throughout our lives.

Childhood to adulthood.

Fear to courage.

Confusion to clarity.

Attachment to acceptance.

Reaction to awareness.

And sometimes, the most important doorway is the one between our familiar consciousness and an expanded consciousness.

Ganesha is standing exactly there.

When consciousness meets what it does not recognise

Shiva returns.

But Shiva does not recognise Ganesha.

And Ganesha does not recognise Shiva.

This is where the story becomes much more than a confrontation.

Two forces meet.

Shakti has created.
Shiva arrives as consciousness.

But the consciousness standing before Ganesha has not yet recognised what has been created by Shakti.

Ganesha, meanwhile, is still operating from the identity and duty he has been given.

He knows:

“I have a purpose. I have a boundary. I have been asked to protect this space.”

And he refuses to move.

The conflict becomes inevitable.

The death of the old identity

Shiva eventually severs Ganesha's head.

If we stay only at the devotional level, this is a dramatic part of the story.

But symbolically, something much deeper can be seen.

The head represents identity, perception, and the way we understand ourselves and the world.

Ganesha's old identity ends.

The identity of:

“I am the one who guards this doorway.”

dies.

And something new becomes possible.

How often does this happen in our own lives?

We hold tightly to an identity.

“I am this kind of person.”

“I don't do that.”

“This is who I am.”

“This is what happened to me.”

“This is what I believe.”

And then life brings us to a doorway.

Something challenges the identity we have been carrying.

Sometimes it feels like destruction.

Sometimes it feels like loss.

Sometimes it feels like life has taken away the very thing that made us feel secure.

But perhaps the old identity is not always being destroyed to punish us.

Perhaps sometimes…

it is being released because we have outgrown it.

The elephant head

Ganesha is then given the head of an elephant and brought back to life.

But he is not simply restored to what he was.

He returns transformed.

The child who once stood at the doorway becomes Ganapati.

The one who had a small, immediate duty is given a much greater cosmic role.

The limited identity has expanded.

The doorway has been crossed.

And this is where the story becomes deeply spiritual.

Transformation does not always mean becoming someone completely different.

Sometimes it means becoming capable of holding a much larger consciousness than the one we had before.

From protection to wisdom

Before the transformation, Ganesha protects a boundary because he has been told to.

After the transformation, Ganesha becomes associated with wisdom, discernment, auspicious beginnings, and the removal of obstacles.

The same being…

but a greater consciousness.

That is perhaps one of the most beautiful messages hidden within the story.

We don't always need to destroy ourselves to grow.

But we may need to allow an old version of ourselves to die.

The version that reacts automatically.

The version that needs to control everything.

The version that believes every boundary is permanent.

The version that mistakes familiarity for truth.

Shakti and Shiva within us

There is another beautiful way to look at this.

Shakti and Shiva are not merely two characters in a story.

They can also be understood as two principles within existence.

Shakti is the creative, dynamic force.

Shiva is pure consciousness—the stillness that witnesses.

When these two meet, transformation becomes possible.

Creation needs consciousness.

Consciousness needs expression.

And between them stands Ganesha—the force that guards the threshold.

Perhaps this is why Ganesha is so deeply connected with beginnings.

Every new beginning requires us to cross a threshold.

And every threshold asks us a question:

“Are you ready to leave behind the consciousness that brought you here?”

What doorway are you standing at?

Maybe your doorway is between anxiety and inner safety.

Maybe it is between constantly pleasing others and finally listening to yourself.

Maybe it is between holding on and letting go.

Maybe it is between knowing something intellectually and actually living it.

Maybe it is between surviving…

and truly being present.

And perhaps the obstacle standing at that doorway is not always something outside you.

Sometimes…

the obstacle is the identity you are afraid to outgrow.

Ganesha reminds us that a doorway is not merely an entrance.

It is a place of transformation.

You stand there with one consciousness behind you…

and another waiting ahead.

And sometimes, what needs to change is not the world outside the doorway.

It is the person standing at the doorway.

This Ganesh Chaturthi

As we welcome Ganesha this year, perhaps we can ask a slightly different question.

Not only:

“Ganesha, remove my obstacles.”

But also:

“Ganesha, show me which part of me has become the obstacle.”

Show me the identity I have outgrown.

Show me the boundary I am ready to cross.

Show me what I am still protecting simply because it is familiar.

And give me the wisdom to recognise that sometimes…

the end of one consciousness is the beginning of another.

Perhaps that is the deeper doorway Ganesha guards.

Not the doorway of a room.

Not the doorway of a temple.

But the doorway…

between who we have been
and who we are becoming.

Meenakshi R Karthikeyan 
AAGHNYA™ | Your Inner Awakening Space

Where every story can become a doorway to inner awareness.

Thursday, September 10, 2026

Chat Besties. Real-Life Strangers





A small modern mystery nobody asked to solve.

Have you ever met someone who is extremely comfortable over chat?

Full buddy mode.

“Heyyyy!”
“Brooo!” “😂😂”
“Tell me everything!”
“Don’t worry, I’m there.”
“Anytime. Just call.”

The conversation flows.

You share something.
They respond instantly.
They joke.
They tease.
They remember little things.

For a moment, you think…

“Oh. We’re actually close.”

And then…

You meet them in person.

Hi.

Hi.

A polite smile.

Maybe a nod.

And then…

Nothing.

They behave as though the person they were chatting with last night…

wasn't you.

Excuse me?

Did I just imagine all those conversations?

And then comes the really confusing part.

You go home.

A few hours later…

PING! 📱

“Heyyyy! ”

“Brooo, what happened?”

“Tell me!” “😂😂😂”

And they are back.

Same warmth.
Same comfort.
Same buddy vibe.

As if the little “Hi” episode from earlier never happened.

And you're sitting there staring at the screen thinking…

“Wait… weren't you the person who acted like you didn't know me this afternoon?”

Now what are we supposed to do with that?

Should we trust you?

No?

Maybe?

Are we actually friends?

Are we acquaintances?

Did I miss some invisible social rule?

What exactly happened between the chat window and the real world?

Ah…

Human beings have somehow invented a new kind of social confusion:

**Very close online.

Complete strangers offline.
Very close again online.**

And the funniest part?

They don't seem confused at all.

They continue the conversation like nothing happened.

Meanwhile, we're mentally replaying the afternoon scene like a detective.

“Was that really them?”

“Did they see me?”

“Maybe they didn't recognise me?”

“But they literally looked at me…”

“Maybe they're just different around people?”

“Then why are they so comfortable with me online?”

And suddenly…

one simple interaction needs a full psychological investigation.

Of course, there may be perfectly innocent reasons.

Some people genuinely communicate better through text.

Some are much more expressive behind a screen.

Some become socially awkward in person.

Some separate their online and offline worlds.

Some simply don't know how to carry the same comfort from one space into another.

And some…

well…

their personality apparently has a “Wi-Fi only” mode.

But here's the interesting part.

We often end up questioning ourselves because of someone else's inconsistency.

“Did I do something wrong?”

“Did I misunderstand our equation?”

“Are they avoiding me?”

“Should I stop being so comfortable with them?”

And sometimes, we don't need to solve the mystery.

We just need to notice the pattern.

Because one awkward encounter can happen.

But when someone repeatedly gives you:

“You can tell me anything.”
online…

“Hi.”
offline…

and then…

“Brooo  What are you doing?”
online again…

you're allowed to wonder.

Not necessarily what is wrong with them.

But simply…

“What is this dynamic?”

Because trust doesn't come only from how warmly someone chats with you at 11:47 PM.

It also comes from whether their behaviour makes some sense across different spaces.

They don't have to behave exactly the same everywhere.

But when the difference is so dramatic that you're constantly wondering which version of the interaction you should believe…

that's information too.

So, to all the people who are:

“Bro, tell me everything ”

on WhatsApp…

“Hi.” 

in person…

and then…

“Heyyyy  What happened?”

on WhatsApp again…

the SAME DAY…

Guys…

you don't know how confusing you are.

You're not necessarily mysterious.

You're just giving us three different versions of the same friendship in one day.

And perhaps the answer is…

all three are you.

Which is perfectly fine.

Just don't be surprised if the other person occasionally sits there thinking:

“Okay… so which version are we meeting today?” 

Because sometimes…

we don't need more conversations.

We just need the behaviour to make sense.

Otherwise, we're left wondering:

“Are we friends, acquaintances, strangers, or WhatsApp-exclusive humans?”

Ah…

Modern social interactions.

Now available in multiple versions.

Terms and conditions may change depending on whether you're online or standing three feet away. 


Meenakshi R Karthikeyan,
AAGHNYA™ | Your Inner Awakening Space

Friday, September 4, 2026

The One We Celebrate… And The One We Almost Forget

 


Krishna was born. So was Maya.

Every year, when Janmashtami arrives, something inside us becomes softer.

We decorate little cradles.

We place tiny footprints of Krishna inside our homes.

We sing.

We fast.

We stay awake waiting for midnight.

And when the clock strikes twelve, we celebrate the birth of Sri Krishna — the one we call Jagadguru, the Supreme Consciousness, the Divine who came into human form.

We remember Devaki.

We remember Vasudeva.

We remember the prison.

We remember the midnight journey.

We remember Yamuna.

We remember Nanda and Yashoda.

We remember the little Krishna who entered Gokula.

But there is another birth in that same story.

A birth that often remains in the shadows.

Maya was born too.

At almost the same time Krishna was born to Devaki and Vasudeva, a divine feminine presence was born to Yashoda and Nanda.

In the sacred tradition, this baby girl is associated with Yogamaya — a divine feminine presence connected with Krishna's earthly Leela.

And perhaps this is where the story becomes much deeper than a story.

Because maybe Krishna's birth is not only about the arrival of God.

Maybe it is also about the arrival of the Power of God.


Krishna is Consciousness. Maya is the Power that moves through Consciousness.

We often use the word Maya as though it simply means illusion.

But the deeper spiritual understanding of Maya is far more profound.

Maya is not merely something that fools us.

In many Hindu philosophical traditions, Maya can be understood as a profound divine power through which reality is experienced, expressed and, at times, veiled from us.

And in the Krishna birth story, the baby girl is associated with Yogamaya — not simply “illusion,” but a divine feminine presence connected with Krishna's earthly play.

The two ideas are related, but they are not simply identical.

It is the mystery between what appears and what truly is.

If Krishna is the ocean…

Maya is the movement of its waves.

If Krishna is the flame…

Maya is the light that allows us to see.

If Krishna is the music…

Maya is the vibration through which the music reaches us.

You cannot separate the power from the source.

And perhaps that is why the feminine was present alongside Krishna.

Not as a secondary character.

Not as a footnote.

But as a reminder that Divinity is never only one-sided.


One is super known. One is super unknown.

Isn't that strangely similar to our own lives?

We celebrate what is visible.

We name what we understand.

We worship what has a form.

But there is always something quietly moving behind it.

We see the flower.

We don't see the intelligence that makes it bloom.

We see a person smile.

We don't see the entire emotional universe behind that smile.

We see an action.

We don't see the consciousness from which that action arose.

We see Krishna.

But perhaps we don't always notice the Shakti that makes Krishna's play possible.

This is the mystery of the Divine Feminine.

She doesn't always stand in the centre.

She doesn't always ask to be recognised.

Sometimes, she works from behind the curtain.

And that doesn't make her less powerful.

Perhaps it makes her even more mysterious.

And then comes Kamsa.

Kamsa hears the prophecy that Devaki's eighth child will be responsible for his destruction.

He is terrified.

He waits.

He watches.

And when the baby girl born to Yashoda is brought before him, he believes this is the child he has been warned about.

He tries to kill her.

But she slips from his hands.

She rises into the sky.

And, according to the sacred narrative, reveals herself as a divine presence.

The little girl was never helpless.

She was never merely a baby.

She was associated with Yogamaya — a power beyond Kamsa's understanding.

And then comes one of the most beautiful spiritual messages hidden inside the story:

What the ego thinks it can control may actually be Divine Power itself.

Kamsa represents the frightened mind.

The mind that wants to control life because it is afraid of losing control.

Krishna represents the Consciousness that cannot be destroyed.

And Maya?

She is the mysterious power that makes the ego believe it is in control — until one day she reveals herself.

Maya does not only hide the Truth.

This is where we need to become careful.

We often say, “Maya is illusion. We must escape Maya.”

But if Maya is understood as a divine power, perhaps the spiritual journey isn't about hating Maya.

It is about seeing through her without rejecting her.

Maya can make us believe:

“I am only this body.”

“I am my success.”

“I am my failure.”

“I am what people think of me.”

“I need this person to be happy.”

“I need that thing to feel complete.”

“I must control everything.”

And yet…

Maya can also lead us back.

A mother can become Maya.

A child can become Maya.

Love can become Maya.

Loss can become Maya.

A heartbreak can become Maya.

Even suffering can become Maya.

Because sometimes the same experience that creates the illusion eventually becomes the experience that breaks it.

She hides.

And then she reveals.

She binds.

And then she releases.

She creates the dream.

And then, when we are ready, she gently wakes us up.

Krishna and Maya are not opposites.

This is perhaps the part I love the most.

We tend to divide everything.

Male and female.

Light and darkness.

Known and unknown.

Spirit and matter.

God and creation.

But the deeper spiritual traditions keep reminding us:

The Divine is whole.

Krishna is not complete because Maya is absent.

Maya is not complete without Krishna.

Consciousness and Shakti belong together.

Stillness and movement.

Awareness and expression.

The silent witness and the dance of existence.

Perhaps that is why Krishna's story is so full of Leela.

Because consciousness doesn't merely sit somewhere far away from life.

It plays through life.

And Maya is part of that play.

Perhaps Janmashtami is not only Krishna's birthday.

Perhaps it is a reminder of something much bigger.

That Consciousness is born within us… and so is the power to experience it.

Every human being carries both.

There is a Krishna within us —

the silent awareness that watches,

the space behind our thoughts,

the stillness beneath our emotions,

the consciousness that remains even when everything else changes.

And there is a Maya within us too —

our emotions,

our desires,

our relationships,

our fears,

our identities,

our dreams,

our attachments,

our experiences.

We need both to live this human life.

The problem is not that Maya exists.

The problem begins when we forget that Maya is Maya.

When we mistake the temporary for the eternal.

When we mistake the role for the Self.

When we mistake the story for the storyteller.

Maybe this is why the feminine Divine deserves to be remembered.

Not only because a Goddess was born on the night Krishna was born.

But because she represents something we have forgotten in ourselves.

The feminine is not weakness.

The feminine is not merely softness.

The feminine can be contemplated as Shakti — the power to create, nurture and transform.

The power to create.

The power to nurture.

The power to transform.

The power to hold.

The power to let go of what must end.

The power to begin again.

And perhaps the most powerful feminine energy is not the one that constantly proves herself.

It is the one that knows who she is even when nobody recognises her.

Maya did not need Kamsa to understand her.

She simply revealed herself.

And disappeared into the vastness from which she came.


The known Krishna.

The unknown Maya.

Maybe both need to be remembered.

Because spirituality is not about choosing one side.

It is about becoming aware of the whole.

Celebrate Krishna.

Celebrate Consciousness.

Celebrate the birth of Divine Awareness.

But while you light that lamp tonight…

perhaps pause for a moment.

And remember the little girl born at the same time.

The divine feminine presence associated with Yogamaya.

The mysterious Shakti.

The one who was almost forgotten in the celebration of the one everyone remembers.

Maybe whisper within yourself:

“I honour the Consciousness that lives within me.
And I honour the Divine Power that allows that Consciousness to express itself.”

Because there are always two sides to every sacred story.

One is loudly remembered.

The other quietly waits to be discovered.

And sometimes…

the one we almost forgot is the one who was holding the entire mystery together.

This Janmashtami, celebrate Krishna.

But also pause for Yogamaya.

Not merely as “illusion.”

But as a profound symbol of the Divine Feminine — the mysterious power that can veil the Truth until we are ready to see, and perhaps also help us recognise what was never truly hidden.

Krishna is the Consciousness.
Yogamaya is the Shakti associated with His Leela.
And we are invited to discover both within ourselves.

Happy Janmashtami.

🪷

Apparently, I Also Teach Threatening & Scolding

Apparently, I Also Teach Threatening & Scolding A morning in the life of a meditation teacher… and a very curious child. Thi...